Being nervous comes with all kinds of
connotations.
- Not prepared
- Inexperienced
- Not good enough
We’ve heard them all or have convinced ourselves that those are reasons for our anxiety. Those may be valid but not always. What if instead we looked at nervousness differently and actually sought out ‘good’ nervous situations. The ones that scare us but we know we need to do. The ones we know will make us better.
When I think of these good nervous
situations, many come to mind for me - joining Delta Chi in university, moving
to Belgium,
co-hosting the Gridiron Show. Those are all examples. I was freaked out by each
but something pushed me through that nervousness knowing the doors the
experience would open would be amazing. Without fail that happened in each case.
Delta Chi gave me an incredible chance to learn outside the classroom while
introducing me to some of the closest friends in my life. Moving to Belgium taught
me I can live elsewhere and it has given me subsequent amazing international
sports opportunities. Putting in my audition for the Gridiron Show forced me to
challenge my introversion to see how far I could take my broadcasting
experience. And though co-hosting it a couple times hasn’t yet landed me a spot
replacing Jay Onrait or Dan O’Toole on TSN, I can dream!
The point too often is we (and specifically
I) see the nervousness as a wall. Instead it should be seen as a compass. It’s
a compass that guides to things that truly matter to us and relate to a
passion. Are we nervous because we’re unnecessarily paranoid about something
and we’re creating anxiety? Or are we nervous because we care and we know this
situation matters deeply to us? Is it a nervousness that can incite change? Making
that distinction is key.
It takes some time but you can identify the
difference between a ‘good’ nervous and a pointless one. A bad nervous is one
you can’t explain. It’s just there and provides nothing of value. It stalls and
limits you. A good nervous is the one where you feel like something’s pushing
you through the anxiety to things you know deep down really matter. That’s when
being really nervous can be really fun.
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